The Secret to Creating the Life You Deserve

The Secret to Creating the Life You Deserve

You're doing a good job of realizing your goals and pursuing your aspirations.

So now that you know what success is and how to get it, congratulations! You've arrived.

Sure, you don't have everything you want in your life just yet, but you've read a lot about success, so you should know everything there is to know about it, right?

If you already know the formula for success, then why aren't you using it?

I don't understand why you don't choose to experience joy, happiness, positive thinking, and high self-esteem instead of anxiety, depression, and poor self-esteem.

There appears to be a chasm between intellectual assimilation and practical application. What gives?

The process of learning itself is fascinating. Most people believe they have gained a great deal of knowledge through their educational experiences and their reading. Especially in regards to shaping your routine thoughts and actions, this is not the case.

The question you should ask yourself is how much of the skills and knowledge you required for your first job you actually gained from college. Despite this, did you find that you learned the most on the job?

The only way to truly learn something is to observe and imitate the actions of someone more experienced than yourself. You probably learned the most about your new work duties by watching others and mimicking their actions, with some explanation along the way.

Even if you have experience in the sector, most employers understand that you will be in a training period for a while after you start. My own experience with small businesses, to which you might be able to relate, was that there was very little in the way of official training; rather, I learned through observing others and using what I had learned in the past.

How did you improve your skills as you advanced in a certain profession? You either continued to learn new information, strategies, and techniques from others or you came up with your own based on what you already knew.

Books and classroom instruction can help us get our bearings on a topic, but the best way to learn is by seeing the actions of those around us and incorporating what we've learned into our own lives.

Let's take a look at your early learning experiences.

You learned the most from the people closest to you, starting with your parents and siblings.

Peers, school and activity peers, and eventually role models, have a greater impact on you as you mature.

The majority of this occurs subconsciously and is out of your control. Without any effort on your part, your mind can pick up new linguistic abilities, behavioral patterns, mannerisms, attitudes, and ways of perceiving the world.

Humans' ability to learn through mimicking others is their most potent and automatic kind of learning. Most of what directs your thoughts and behaviors at the present moment was not learned through study, reading, or memorization. It was accomplished by imitating others' actions.

Live human interaction is the most effective method of education. You get a first-hand look at their actions in a fully interactive and sensory human setting.

The second-most successful method is listening to someone explain their process. You get the full force of their voice, complete with the inflections of their emotions and attitudes as they speak. There is no substitute for hearing it straight from the horse's mouth, so to speak.

Reading about it is the least effective way to learn behavioral and cognitive patterns because it cannot be considered modeling. There is no resemblance to human contact here at all. You have to rely entirely on your own interpretation of the written content and creative thinking to get any value at all. Reading is a great way to learn the fundamentals of a subject. But just as with a formal education, you need to be exposed to it in the context of other people in order to absorb it and use it yourself.

Consider how many real people you've fashioned your behavior after as opposed to fictional characters.

The more of your senses that are stimulated, the easier it will be to incorporate the activity into your daily routine. Rather than being moved by a superficial summary, you are affected by the individual as a whole.

Look to those who have achieved the success you seek as role models for the attitudes and actions you should adopt to realize your own goals in life. Studying 'about' models is not the same as learning from them; learning from them requires either live interaction or vocal communication.

To truly adopt another person's traits, you must understand the subtleties and the core emotions that motivate their decisions and actions. The strength of communication lies in the unspoken emotional undercurrents shared by both parties.

Here you will learn the amount of self-awareness, the optimistic outlook and thinking, the self-assurance, and the motivation behind what they do, all of which you can use to back up your own actions.

If you go beneath the surface of communication, you will find a gold mine of information you can use to better yourself.

When you put in the effort to make your goals a reality, you will find that they are within easy reach.